
Since my dad has passed Father's Day has always been bitter sweet. I miss my dad with all my heart but I am so happy that my children have an amazing dad to spend this day with. I think about my dad and how his heart would be broken seeing me ill. My dad was an amazing man. Great father but an even more incredible person. He was a man that made a presence everywhere he went. He was strong and tough, yet so generous and kind. As the warden of the Allegheny County Jail he dedicated his career in giving to others. I can not tell you growing and even today how many inmates, parents, teenagers or just ordinary people come up to me and tell me that my dad had helped them through a difficult time. He was the kind of man that never let anyone know he was helping others either. He just made it a way of life and expected us to do the same. He would teach us that no one is less then us because they are "down on their luck or have different circumstances". But we are less then them if we don't reach out a hand to help them.
As well as that he also instilled in us to do the best at everything we take part in. He was strict to a fault at times, but being a parent myself now I understand it a bit. Mark always tells that boys that I grew up in a prison with the warden actually watching every move I made. That was literally true in every aspect. I had a curfew even the night before I got married at 25 years old and I listened with respect. He use to say to all of us, "I will never be your best friend, but always be your dad." That sums it all up. He loved all his children unconditionally no matter what they did. Just what a dad should do.
All though Mark and my dad are very different in some ways their parenting is very similar. Mark loves his boys always and makes sure they always know that. Just the other day he was very anger at something that Austen did and as he was scolding him he made sure he added in that he loves him. At this time in my boys life knowing that you are loved by your parents makes any obstacle easy to get through.
Sometimes the poorest man leaves his children the richest inheritance. That is what my father left me and Mark will leave our boys.
Happy Father's Day to all the dad's. Being a father is a gift from God but having a child with a great father is a better gift.
Sunny