After a courageous 10 year fight battling Carcinoid Cancer, Sunny Carney, of Plum, passed peacefully on Saturday, November 3. She was married to her devoted husband, Mark; and was a loving mother to Austen, Logan and Nolan; daughter of Patricia Jennings and the late James J. Jennings; daughter-in-law of Dale and Dottie Carney; sister of Judy Phillips (Ray Jr.), Lynn Pesta (Teddy), Michael Jennings (Vicki Lynn), James Jennings (Sue), Joseph Jennings (Elizabeth), Sheila Fortes (Jim); sister-in-law of Craig Carney (Julia). She is also survived by numerous aunts, uncles, cousins, nieces, and nephews, and was a true friend and inspiration to many.
In addition to being an inspiration to family and friends Sunny inspired carcinoid cancer patients across the globe through her blog, and then her book "The Sunny Side of Cancer. She spoke at numerous cancer events locally sharing stories of her journey which led her from Basel, Switzerland to all of the top Carcinoid Cancer specialists here in the states. She was an advocate for better diagnosis of the disease and for insurance coverage of treatments. She fought with grace and dignity, never letting the pain inside challenge her faith or diminish her love for life.
Memorials may be made to "Carney Family Fund", c/o S&T Bank, 2190 Hulton Road, Verona, PA 15147.
Friends received Monday 7-9 p.m. and Tuesday 3-8 p.m. at Unity Community Church, 215 Unity Center Road, Plum, PA 15239.
Funeral Services will be held on Wednesday at 11 a.m. in Unity Community Church with Rev. Frank Deluce officiating. Arrangements entrusted to CHARLES W. TRENZ FUNERAL HOME, INC.
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Below is an entry that was written by Sunny's husband Mark when she had her third bout. To become updated on her journey please enjoy her posts.
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Sunny's husband Mark tells their story...
A mother of three boys, a daughter, the baby sister to a large family, an aunt, a godmother to several, a trusted friend, an outreach volunteer, a business owner and my wife. Sunny Carney lives up to her name every time someone speaks to her; she is beautiful both in and out. She has been my biggest motivator, my rock and my inspiration in tough times, my biggest fan in good times, and most importantly my best friend. Told 14 years ago that having children may not be part of our future because of ovarian cancer, she kept the faith, and is a wonderful mother to our three sons- Austen, Logan, and Nolan. She is always ensuring that they know the Lord, love of life, kindness to others, hard work, and occasionally when to "shape up".
Her boundless energy, healthy lifestyle and positive attitude are infectious. She has served as president of our children’s PTA, organized committees that benefit those who are less fortunate in the community and led drives for those who have been caught up in unfortunate situations. She has done so much for others, usually without letting anyone ever know, I could not begin to list them. Her strong faith in God and modest upbringing has given her a sense of giving that only she can explain. When she successfully started her own photography business, she also started a non-profit division photographing family portraits for area families fighting cancer. Her friends say she is amazing and she simply shakes her head and wonders what all of the fuss is about.
Her mother, sisters, brothers and large extended family will tell you she is the one you can count on to lend an ear when needed and never judge. She was raised by her loving mother and father who was the warden of the Allegheny County Jail and actually spent most of her childhood in the residence connected to the jail. At a young age she witnessed more of life’s tragedies and obstacles through her neighbors, the prisoners, than most of us can imagine.
Although all of the aforementioned is remarkable it is not what makes her truly special. Sunny is a two time cancer survivor and now is currently fighting for a third time. After beating ovarian carcinoid cancer and undergoing serious surgery for carcinoid tumors in her right lung just three years ago, the carcinoid tumors returned in her lymph nodes, liver and bones. The size and proliferation throughout the liver of these tumors mandates immediate chemotherapy in four treatments over the next few months as well as monthly octreotide treatments. These painful treatments will hopefully stop the growth but are not a cure. There are numerous tumors in her spine, her skull, her hip, her leg, and her shoulder...all in the bones and she will wait on potential radiation to fight those.
What my wife has is Carcinoid Cancer Syndrome, an endocrine disease which is rare and spreads from organ to organ. As of right now the only known treatment for remission is administered by renowned clinics in Europe. However the treatment is not covered by our insurance. Our doctors have encouraged us to start raising money and matching grants could follow. Her lead oncologist strongly believes that Sunny would be a prime candidate to be a voice to get the message out regarding carcinoid cancer syndrome, bring this treatment to the United States and encourage approval from the FDA. Without this treatment, the tumors most likely will continue to metastasize in other organs and her fight will be ongoing. Sunny has set up The Sunny Carney Carcinoid Cancer Fund to support her treatments. She believes that once she beats this cancer she can make a difference to others also suffering from Carcinoid Cancer.
Mark A. Carney
C/o S & T Bank
Tuesday, February 12, 2013
Like Sunny said....What if this is your last V- Day?
So I was stuck...I went back to you for inspiration...and reread your post from last Feb 14th...and I came across this line...."If this is my last Valentines Day I know that I felt the fullest love on that day." Ok I cried my ass off when I read it.....but then I realized the message behind it....how many couples in love will worry about the wrong thing on Thursday....how many couples will end up arguing or feeling hurt because the gift wasn't just right...or the dinner plans got screwed up....or the kids heaven forbid got in the way....how many would act the same if they knew it was their last V-Day with their loved one?....thats the message...don't assume...don't take for granted...don't count on time you have no guarranty for....screw the small shit...hug and kiss and cherish the time you have with that special someone...because thats all that matters...the time you have with them...I am now the proud owner of a lot of jewelry...of gifts that seemed to mean or show something on Feb 14...but you know what I would (and I know you would)...trade them in a flash for one last dinner this Thursday...
So the boys and I are going to spend it together...going to see A Good Day To Die Hard believe it or not...Bruce Willis...John McClain...Yippee ....well you know the rest...their idea...can't wait...I will make sure you are not missing that night....I Love U so much it hurts.....but there is such a message in what you wrote that I am going to make it easy for everyone and share it again below...hope it connects with someone out there like it connected with me...
I LOVE U ALWAYS
Happy Valentines Day -Feb 14, 2012 Sunny Carney
Happy Valentines Day my friends! I am so lucky I can write a blog to tell everyone out there that has been with me through this journey that "I Love You".
Valentines Day for me has never been a day for just Mark and I. Since I became a mother of three boys I have always made February 14th be a way I show my love to all of my boys. Mark and I have our anniversary which is our special day and Valentines Day has always been about all four men in my life. When the boys were little I would do fun games or crafts and always splurge on a box of heart shaped candy. Now that they are teenagers and have a life beyond this home I try to make it a quick hour of maybe a nice dinner or fun desert. You can always win their attention with food. Today I was in not condition to cook so we had a nice dinner dropped off by a friend and another friend surprised me with a balloon and some strawberry cheesecake. So I took the credit for those and served them with a smile. Well, they kinda served themselves while I struggle with some pain but I did direct them. I still splurge on the heart shape chocolates and a heartfelt card with my own words written inside. Also, I got them each a little special gift. Whatever it is I don't spend a ton of money or buy them something they always wanted. I try to make it from the heart and something that shows I was thinking about them.
Today Mark and I spent most of the afternoon at treatments. Which doesn't sound real romantic but I can tell you it is our time were we are forced to talk. We usually mingle with our regular cancer posses and our nurses which are like our family. Believe it or not we laugh about things and try to make the best of the situation. So it can be quite special if we let it be. After treatment today we stopped at our favorite sushi spot, yes sounds strange but sushi is what I carve after treatment, and we enjoyed each others company. Unfortunately the treatment hit me quickly while we were sitting there and I rushed Mark through lunch. He completely knew that I was pushing it and was actually waiting for me by the door when I told him I needed to head home. After resting for a half hour we then had a date at a seventh grade basketball game were we had great seats to see one of my valentines play. The only thing that would of made the night better is if my other two boys had games too.
I feel so lucky that I have so much love on Valentines Day. But I have to admit I know I have that love everyday. I use this day to show them that I know I am blessed with their unconditional love. Despite my battle, I have to pinch myself every now and then to make sure that these four men are real. I am told by others that I made my boys the great kids they are but I have to say God has truly molded them. I just did the easy part and loved them. I know that to those looking in on my life it may seem quite scary and uncertain. Fighting an incurable cancer and not knowing what my future holds is scary. Wondering if this is my last Valentines with them or last basketball game I will see is always in the back of my mind. Although its in the way back hidden somewhere I don't like to visit. I have learned not to look at things that way. It is out of my control and will only take me away from the moment. I am so happy that I have what I have now. Sure I am suffering but I have so much love and support. It may not have a ton of money, material things or even a secure future but I have true love. Not that warm fuzzy kissy kind of love. Its a unspoken but showed love. Its the love that keeps me fighting. I believe that the love I have for my boys and the love they have for me gives me the courage to go on. If this is my last Valentines Day I know that I felt the fullest love on that day.
It is great to love someone. Though to be loved back the way you truly love them is everything. It is not always about you and your partner on Valentines Day. To me it is about all those that you love and all those that love you. I am blessed that I have the men in my life to love me for me and look at me even when I am at my physical worse like I am the best. They don't see my pain, my thin body or my pale face. They look past all that and see in my eyes the mom and wife that I am. What really makes it special is they don't even know that they show me this love everyday. They don't know that the little things they do or the words they say to me are what keeps me going on with my battle. They think I am strong and tough when really its them that keep me going.
So remember February 14th is a day to show your love for your special Valentines. Everyday is when you see they way they love you.
Happy Love Day,