After a courageous 10 year fight battling Carcinoid Cancer, Sunny Carney, of Plum, passed peacefully on Saturday, November 3. She was married to her devoted husband, Mark; and was a loving mother to Austen, Logan and Nolan; daughter of Patricia Jennings and the late James J. Jennings; daughter-in-law of Dale and Dottie Carney; sister of Judy Phillips (Ray Jr.), Lynn Pesta (Teddy), Michael Jennings (Vicki Lynn), James Jennings (Sue), Joseph Jennings (Elizabeth), Sheila Fortes (Jim); sister-in-law of Craig Carney (Julia). She is also survived by numerous aunts, uncles, cousins, nieces, and nephews, and was a true friend and inspiration to many.
In addition to being an inspiration to family and friends Sunny inspired carcinoid cancer patients across the globe through her blog, and then her book "The Sunny Side of Cancer. She spoke at numerous cancer events locally sharing stories of her journey which led her from Basel, Switzerland to all of the top Carcinoid Cancer specialists here in the states. She was an advocate for better diagnosis of the disease and for insurance coverage of treatments. She fought with grace and dignity, never letting the pain inside challenge her faith or diminish her love for life.
Memorials may be made to "Carney Family Fund", c/o S&T Bank, 2190 Hulton Road, Verona, PA 15147.
Friends received Monday 7-9 p.m. and Tuesday 3-8 p.m. at Unity Community Church, 215 Unity Center Road, Plum, PA 15239.
Funeral Services will be held on Wednesday at 11 a.m. in Unity Community Church with Rev. Frank Deluce officiating. Arrangements entrusted to CHARLES W. TRENZ FUNERAL HOME, INC.
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Below is an entry that was written by Sunny's husband Mark when she had her third bout. To become updated on her journey please enjoy her posts.
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Sunny's husband Mark tells their story...
A mother of three boys, a daughter, the baby sister to a large family, an aunt, a godmother to several, a trusted friend, an outreach volunteer, a business owner and my wife. Sunny Carney lives up to her name every time someone speaks to her; she is beautiful both in and out. She has been my biggest motivator, my rock and my inspiration in tough times, my biggest fan in good times, and most importantly my best friend. Told 14 years ago that having children may not be part of our future because of ovarian cancer, she kept the faith, and is a wonderful mother to our three sons- Austen, Logan, and Nolan. She is always ensuring that they know the Lord, love of life, kindness to others, hard work, and occasionally when to "shape up".
Her boundless energy, healthy lifestyle and positive attitude are infectious. She has served as president of our children’s PTA, organized committees that benefit those who are less fortunate in the community and led drives for those who have been caught up in unfortunate situations. She has done so much for others, usually without letting anyone ever know, I could not begin to list them. Her strong faith in God and modest upbringing has given her a sense of giving that only she can explain. When she successfully started her own photography business, she also started a non-profit division photographing family portraits for area families fighting cancer. Her friends say she is amazing and she simply shakes her head and wonders what all of the fuss is about.
Her mother, sisters, brothers and large extended family will tell you she is the one you can count on to lend an ear when needed and never judge. She was raised by her loving mother and father who was the warden of the Allegheny County Jail and actually spent most of her childhood in the residence connected to the jail. At a young age she witnessed more of life’s tragedies and obstacles through her neighbors, the prisoners, than most of us can imagine.
Although all of the aforementioned is remarkable it is not what makes her truly special. Sunny is a two time cancer survivor and now is currently fighting for a third time. After beating ovarian carcinoid cancer and undergoing serious surgery for carcinoid tumors in her right lung just three years ago, the carcinoid tumors returned in her lymph nodes, liver and bones. The size and proliferation throughout the liver of these tumors mandates immediate chemotherapy in four treatments over the next few months as well as monthly octreotide treatments. These painful treatments will hopefully stop the growth but are not a cure. There are numerous tumors in her spine, her skull, her hip, her leg, and her shoulder...all in the bones and she will wait on potential radiation to fight those.
What my wife has is Carcinoid Cancer Syndrome, an endocrine disease which is rare and spreads from organ to organ. As of right now the only known treatment for remission is administered by renowned clinics in Europe. However the treatment is not covered by our insurance. Our doctors have encouraged us to start raising money and matching grants could follow. Her lead oncologist strongly believes that Sunny would be a prime candidate to be a voice to get the message out regarding carcinoid cancer syndrome, bring this treatment to the United States and encourage approval from the FDA. Without this treatment, the tumors most likely will continue to metastasize in other organs and her fight will be ongoing. Sunny has set up The Sunny Carney Carcinoid Cancer Fund to support her treatments. She believes that once she beats this cancer she can make a difference to others also suffering from Carcinoid Cancer.
Mark A. Carney
C/o S & T Bank
Sunday, February 24, 2013
King Of Pain
Sorry...I need to step away for a moment....
Back...it just seems like the whole world is going on right by me...the last three months or so have been a blur...like a DVR FFx8 after first going into super slo-mo the first three days of November...damn...if I could have done something...if I would have known...I wouldn't have taken you in so early...you could have a real goodbye with our boys and your mom...they were all here...sorry...choking up again...I would take your place in a sec...you should be down here spreading sunshine and I should have been the one with all of my healthy lifestyle choices...(haha)...Our friends our having babies...getting engaged...buying and building houses...their kids are growing up...moving out...having kids...I am so happy for them...but it rips me apart on the inside because I know how much you celebrated and looked forward to each step on the journey....each milestone marker your boys hit...or we hit...damn...sorry....
sometimes its hard to get motivated in the mornings after the boys go off to school....I change my routine....I try...but sometimes the pain is so deep...and this house is so empty....its just hard...its easier to curl into a ball and bury my head for an hour...and I hope that when my eyes open you are next to me....sometimes I dream so intensely I awaken myself answering questions that of course you never asked....I jump into work...and its busy...but still financial crap piles on...I discover shit to this day thanks to our buddies at UPMC...you think I could play the "SHES DEAD GET OUT OF DEBT CARD.."I picture you smacking me down saying lets go ....get at it...we got orders to fill....and I do it...but its just not the same....I have more than enough so staying busy once I get going isn't an issue...but its hard...I miss your kick in the butt....I love you so frickin much...
so I finally realized the other reason why the Jonah story kept popping up recently...Today at church as Pastor did his second part on the Jonah story....he did an altar call at the end...for those that just needed prayed for...for whatever reason...for those like Jonah in Ch 2 that had reached the very depths of things...felt so alone and that God couldn't possibly be with them...for those that know God but want more...for those that were all smiles and made the appearance on the outside that all was great...joking...but on the inside...real pain...real mess....real opposite of smiles....I felt like that part was a laser beaming in on me directly....I have been okey dokeying the world for months and its old, tired, and hard....Oscar night...pfffttt...I have learned to play a role of being there and being positive for everyone and to everyone and yet I am alone...who do I turn to talk to now that you are up there?....who do I share hugs with when things go well and do I squeeze and clench tightly when things hurt...who encourages....who prods....who motivates...who inspires me?....and I know I will get a few notes tomorrow from well meaning family and friends....oh Mark...let it go...get it out...Sunny wouldn't want you to be like this...she is in heaven...she has no pain....so is in a better place....I have been saying that crap for three months now and I say crap because yes its true...but saying it out loud a million times since November 3rd doesn't erase the hurt...its a recording in my brain that just pushes play when someone asks do I miss you?....or how are you?....How am I?....truth is ....I MISS MY HERO...the Sun was literally ripped from my life....how would a plant survive without the sun....but I say instead....okey dokey....one day at a time...we are ok...we are inspired by her legacy...and the footprints....
I wish you were here right now to walk up and down over me and around me and leave muddy concrete footprints...but fresh ones...thats what I will never see again...fresh ones...and I am sorry but I struggle with that concept...a lot of assholes still get to wake up every morning...and yet you won't make another new footprint...won't impact me or anyone else except in the Betamax of our memories...sorry DVD's for you young ens....I say I get it....I try to convince myself everyday that I get it....but you and I both know I haven't got it yet....thats the biggest thing....you aren't coming back....(and don't give me that BS that "you are still with us...you are watching over us...")....Jesus was doing a fine job of watching over us when you were here....and you are not next to me stealing the covers...changing the channels...making me feel like I was the King of the World....not the King of Pain....so I am venting....big time...I miss you...this is hard...this is so hard...it hurts...it hurts like a big crotch shot...the kind you double over from and hold your breath hoping that a piece of you is still there...except in this case the piece is gone...but the pain is still there....
and yes I will put back on my "happy" face tomorrow and be mr. spit and fire life is good stay positive make a difference in the world don't mope celebrate what you have because it may be gone tomorrow and boy what a beautiful snow or sunset.....and I will do it again the next day....because I figure at some point it has to trigger my brain to accept it and not just act it.....but until then please pray hard that the hurt and sense of loss eases...and please pray for our boys...they have to be feeling the same even if they are so busy with school and sports....and please pray for our families and our friends who I know also miss you dearly....
Only the good die young....they definitely wrote that song for you....because it was way too short down here especially since you have eternity up there...I am not going to sugarcoat it...I get angry at Him though I shouldn't but you point one person out to me who lost a dear dear loved one and hasn't gotten angry and I will introduce you to Jesus twin brother...I am human....you no longer are...and that sucks....I want to hug and hold and kiss you...I want to feel the warmth of your touch on my hand at night...I want to hear your sweet laugh...I want to see the dancing sparkle of your green eyes...I want to....I will stop this train of thought now to keep it PG....but you cannot imagine how my heart is now half a heart....I gave you half and never expected it back but never expected it to be gone so soon...keep it...I don't need it anyways down here....I would give it back to you again and more if I could and if I knew the end results...because you were my life...not wife...life...alright I cried enough...I really do MISS U
please if you are sharing this talk with Sunny and I don't go all noid on me this is a part of the healing process or so I am told...
I LOVE U ALWAYS SUNSHINE